Due to a lack of energy from the brutal Winter months, for the initial couple of weeks of Spring, I was uncharacteristically slacking on the upkeep of my looks. I figured that I looked good enough to suffice for my romantic goals. I was acquiring tail and I still looked much better compared to most of my competitors. What could go wrong?
From a quantity standpoint, my performance was typical. But from a quality standpoint, I was pulling a below what i was accustomed to. The quantity of effort I needed to place in was also more than average. Not extremely, mind you, but yet noticeably so. Recently, I renewed my efforts to look fresh each time I hit the streets and the improvement in my game has been equally recognizable. I've been getting even more eye contact from hotter chicks and they were more responsive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
The conversation at the time revolved around the different ways one could differentiate sluts from prudes based on appearance alone. Between us, there were at least 20 years of combined Tokyo puss hunting experience. We covered a vast array of subtle and not-so-subtle tells ranging from large bracelets and fake tans to denim skirts with leggings.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Then it dawned on me: Japanese gals have a similarly if not much more sophisticated sorting capability for Japanese guys, and a comparatively unsophisticated one for non-Asians. It's simply natural-- they spend their whole lives surrounded by and connecting with largely Japanese men. They recognize exactly how to detect a Japanese guy that cares for himself and one who does not. They will rapidly catch on to the nuances that show high or low sexual worth in a Japanese man.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
In closing, if you're a single Asian man looking to find some action in Japan, make sure your fashion, fitness, and grooming are on point.
From a quantity standpoint, my performance was typical. But from a quality standpoint, I was pulling a below what i was accustomed to. The quantity of effort I needed to place in was also more than average. Not extremely, mind you, but yet noticeably so. Recently, I renewed my efforts to look fresh each time I hit the streets and the improvement in my game has been equally recognizable. I've been getting even more eye contact from hotter chicks and they were more responsive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
The conversation at the time revolved around the different ways one could differentiate sluts from prudes based on appearance alone. Between us, there were at least 20 years of combined Tokyo puss hunting experience. We covered a vast array of subtle and not-so-subtle tells ranging from large bracelets and fake tans to denim skirts with leggings.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Then it dawned on me: Japanese gals have a similarly if not much more sophisticated sorting capability for Japanese guys, and a comparatively unsophisticated one for non-Asians. It's simply natural-- they spend their whole lives surrounded by and connecting with largely Japanese men. They recognize exactly how to detect a Japanese guy that cares for himself and one who does not. They will rapidly catch on to the nuances that show high or low sexual worth in a Japanese man.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
In closing, if you're a single Asian man looking to find some action in Japan, make sure your fashion, fitness, and grooming are on point.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com