The need to talk to your ex can be overwhelming at times. The urge to call your ex and want to talk about what went wrong in your relationship can turn to frustration if your ex is avoiding your calls. Is there a way to force your ex to return your call or make your ex pick up the phone when you call?
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
The first thing you need to do is to stop calling your ex for a while. If you have been calling your ex a lot and you haven't gotten any response from them then continuing to call is only going to annoy them. Tricks such as leaving message asking that your ex call you back because you have a question or that it's urgent that they call you back will only make you appear needy and a little crazy. You want to avoid this at all cost.
Usually a week or two of not calling your ex or trying to contact them through alternate routes will be necessary. The more you have been calling, the longer you should wait before you try getting in touch with your ex again. Waiting two weeks or more before trying to contact your ex again is a good rule of thumb but you can wait longer to improve your chances of getting a positive response from them.
Next, before you contact your ex again, you should try to create some mystery. Avoiding contacting your ex will help your ex to start to miss you but you should also create some mystery about what has been going on in your life. Avoid talking about the breakup with your friends or family. Avoid posting sad status messages on your social networking profiles. Your life needs to be a mystery to your ex so when you do get back in touch with them they will be curious about what has been going on in your life.
You can actually use social networking to your benefit when trying to get your ex back. You can create some mystery about what's going on with you and make your ex wonder if you still want to get back together. Try to relax. You want your ex to wonder if you still want them or not. Post funny photos or links to songs that make you happy. Avoid posting anything that will make your ex feel that you are thinking about them. Delete any recent messages that are sad or that point to the fact that you are still in love with your ex. If you can't bear to post anything positive then it's better to remain silent on your social networking profile.
Lastly, while you might have a craving to hear your that voice that you love so much, initiating contact through text messages would be a better way to get in touch the first time. Text messages will allow you to restrain yourself and say what you need to say no matter what your emotional state might be. Your ex knows you very well and they will be able to tell if you are upset or nervous when they hear your voice. Text messages have also become almost an unspoken rule these days in our society as the way of initiating contact after there has been conflict in a relationship.
It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.
Your desire to talk with your ex and hear their voice may make life difficult at times. The pain that you're feeling and the rejection that you're bound to experiencing might cause you to impulsively reach for the phone. Your ex was your best friend and your confidante. Every time something happens in your life your mind will automatically think of your ex. You will want to share something with them or tell them what happened to you today. You may feel very alone at times but you can solve this problem.
By being patient and using what you have learned here, you can get back in touch with your ex. You will hear their voice again and you will be able to connect with your ex again. Any time you feel tempted to pick up that phone, remember that the longer you wait the better your chances are of reuniting with your ex. The longer you wait the happier your ex is going to be to hear your voice and connect with you again. You might even get lucky and have your ex call you before you're ready.
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
The first thing you need to do is to stop calling your ex for a while. If you have been calling your ex a lot and you haven't gotten any response from them then continuing to call is only going to annoy them. Tricks such as leaving message asking that your ex call you back because you have a question or that it's urgent that they call you back will only make you appear needy and a little crazy. You want to avoid this at all cost.
Usually a week or two of not calling your ex or trying to contact them through alternate routes will be necessary. The more you have been calling, the longer you should wait before you try getting in touch with your ex again. Waiting two weeks or more before trying to contact your ex again is a good rule of thumb but you can wait longer to improve your chances of getting a positive response from them.
Next, before you contact your ex again, you should try to create some mystery. Avoiding contacting your ex will help your ex to start to miss you but you should also create some mystery about what has been going on in your life. Avoid talking about the breakup with your friends or family. Avoid posting sad status messages on your social networking profiles. Your life needs to be a mystery to your ex so when you do get back in touch with them they will be curious about what has been going on in your life.
You can actually use social networking to your benefit when trying to get your ex back. You can create some mystery about what's going on with you and make your ex wonder if you still want to get back together. Try to relax. You want your ex to wonder if you still want them or not. Post funny photos or links to songs that make you happy. Avoid posting anything that will make your ex feel that you are thinking about them. Delete any recent messages that are sad or that point to the fact that you are still in love with your ex. If you can't bear to post anything positive then it's better to remain silent on your social networking profile.
Lastly, while you might have a craving to hear your that voice that you love so much, initiating contact through text messages would be a better way to get in touch the first time. Text messages will allow you to restrain yourself and say what you need to say no matter what your emotional state might be. Your ex knows you very well and they will be able to tell if you are upset or nervous when they hear your voice. Text messages have also become almost an unspoken rule these days in our society as the way of initiating contact after there has been conflict in a relationship.
It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.
Your desire to talk with your ex and hear their voice may make life difficult at times. The pain that you're feeling and the rejection that you're bound to experiencing might cause you to impulsively reach for the phone. Your ex was your best friend and your confidante. Every time something happens in your life your mind will automatically think of your ex. You will want to share something with them or tell them what happened to you today. You may feel very alone at times but you can solve this problem.
By being patient and using what you have learned here, you can get back in touch with your ex. You will hear their voice again and you will be able to connect with your ex again. Any time you feel tempted to pick up that phone, remember that the longer you wait the better your chances are of reuniting with your ex. The longer you wait the happier your ex is going to be to hear your voice and connect with you again. You might even get lucky and have your ex call you before you're ready.
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